I started training for my new job this week. One of the things we were told to think about was how not to pre-judge someone. We were told to watch Susan Boyle’s first audition for Britain’s Got Talent.
Now I’ve never watched Britain’s Got Talent but I do remember the hype around this audition and the attention it generated for her.
Having watched the audition, I was amazed at just how obvious it was that everyone was judging her. The judges were rolling their eyes, obviously expecting to see Susan Boyle fall flat on her face. It was obvious the audience was against her as well. Everyone was. That was, until she opened her mouth.
What I love most about this audition is about halfway through the clip, Susan Boyle’s eyes meets with the judges and she smiles and, they smile back. It’s like they’ve connected together. It’s a great example of why you should never judge person before you know them.
The shocked expressions of the judges, the standing ovation from the audience and she was still shocked that she went through! It’s beautiful really. And like one of the judges said, the best thing about it was that everyone was against her and she proved them wrong.
I think as a society we find it easier to judge on first sight etc rather than spending time getting to know someone. One reason being that we all feel that our time is too valuable to spend talking to someone, so it’s easier to make assumptions and then carry on with our lives.
We’re also much more insular now then say fifty years ago. Fifty years ago there was a much stronger sense of community in towns and cities which we don’t really get any more. People don’t really make the effort with their neighbours and we tend to keep ourselves to ourselves as much as we can now.
So the moral of the story is, we find it easy to judge others but in reality that person could amaze you. It shows that you never really know what a person is capable off until you give them a chance.
I think it’s something we should all remember the next time we have a choice between making an effort or pre-judging someone.