Remember when we were children and we would play games with our friends? In those games, there was always a good guy and a bad guy.
When we were teenagers and fall outs occurred, there was always a good guy and a bad guy.
Now we’re adults and when something bad happens, we always find someone or something else to blame.
My question is, why do we need a bad guy?
I recently got out of a seven year relationship and, already I can see that one of us is going to end up being the bad guy.
To a lot of people, that bad guy will probably be me. This is due to mistakes I’ve made in my past and, the fact that when we did have issues in our relationship, I didn’t tell people, so they only know his side.
As you can imagine, this is incredibly frustrating. But at the same time, I can’t go around telling people my side, because then it’s almost like I’m trying to bad mouth him and prove everyone else wrong.
Surprisingly, our split was quite amicable. However we have both dealt with it in different ways.
I’ve always been quite proactive and optimistic. Whereas my ex is not like that, so to him it looks like I’m completely fine, which makes me look like I didn’t care and so on.
Wouldn’t life be so much easier if people didn’t take sides? Or didn’t feel the need to blame someone for the wrongs in their life?
Maybe it’s time that we start taking control over our lives and, admit when something is our fault, rather than finding someone else to be the bad guy…