I remember when I was in primary school, I think I was eight or nine and it was nearly my birthday, my mum said I could have friends round for tea. I was so excited.

The next day I went to school and I asked about half a dozen people if they wanted to come. By the end of the week, I think nearly all of them had an excuse not to attend. I don’t know if the excuses were genuine or not, but I remember the feeling of having to go home and tell my mum. I was devastated.

Over the years, I have tried to arrange get together’s and parties and day’s out, but the same thing seems to keep happening.

It happened on my 21st. My best friends weren’t there. It was me, my ex and some of his friends. Admittedly that was the night I met Jordan and fast forward four years and we’re now living together, but still. I felt so alone.

Somehow over the years, I have just found it easier to keep everyone at arm’s length. That way I can’t be disappointed. I don’t like getting close to people, because they will just find someone better eventually.

I say that I just don’t like people. I like to do my own thing. Which is true, I do like my own space and to just get on with things. I don’t want to be relying on other people.

That doesn’t mean that I don’t get jealous of all the fun other people have. I feel like sometimes I’m just watching from the sidelines and I never get the chance to be part of the fun. I just want to fit in. To be part of the group.

Every time that I think this is finally about to happen, that I’m going to have what I want, it all comes crashing down around me. Maybe I put too much pressure on it, maybe I expect too much and because of that I’m always going to be disappointed.

I just can’t help but feel like I’m always second best.

I remember when I was at College, I had a big argument with my boyfriend and I was in tears walking through town. I text my best friend asking if she was still in town, she text back saying she was already on her way home. Five minutes later I saw her sat on a bench with some friends. She didn’t see me, but I just remember feeling so lonely. I had no one to speak to and I blamed myself. I wasn’t important enough.

I know that as we get older, our priorities change and work, relationships and so on, just get in the way but it doesn’t change the way I feel. When it’s someone’s birthday, I always remember and go to the party. When someone gets married, I buy them a present. I guess I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong.

I think social media makes it even worse though. You can get all the likes on Facebook or Instagram but it’s not the same as someone actually making the effort to spend some time with you. I don’t understand the people that have hundreds of friends on Facebook. How can you honestly say you are friends with all those people?

Maybe it is my fault. I was painfully shy in primary school and didn’t really improve until College. By that point though, I had a barrier up and I didn’t let many people through it.

Right now I feel that a lot of people only put up with me because of Jordan. Everybody loves Jordan. I love Jordan. Sometimes I feel that I only get invited because of him though and that his friends don’t really want me there. I feel like I finally have the opportunity to have the group of friends that throw parties and go out places, but that I don’t fit in.

Right now, I just want to stay away from everyone. This is what always happens. I get excited, plan something and then it all goes wrong and that barrier goes back up. I push those people away and then I have to warm up to them again.

I have missed out on so much because I didn’t do all the teenage things others did. I didn’t go out drinking at University, I didn’t make the friendships that other people did. And now I feel like I’m trying to catch up. I don’t know what I’m suppose to do.

Some people I work with keep trying to reach out to me. I’m currently stuck between wanting to get to know them better and wanting to run and bury my head in the sand so that I can’t be hurt again.

Maybe I’m overthinking it. Maybe I’m just not good enough. I don’t know.

It’s my birthday next month. Generally speaking I don’t enjoy birthdays. From the age of 17 until I was 23, my birthdays were not great. It was a mixture of my parents splitting up, a rubbish boyfriend and constantly just feeling alone. I’m not very good at explaining to Jordan what’s wrong. I don’t think I’ve ever told him why each birthday was bad. I don’t like opening old wounds.

I can’t complain though, when it comes to birthday’s Jordan is pretty good. I’m lucky I have him.



Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award

I was nominated for this by Jaye over at Thank you so much! We only started talking a few weeks ago, but you are a good friend and, I like to think we’ve helped each other a lot.

I hadn’t heard of this award until Jaye had nominated me for it. Basically what it is is an award to give to fellow women bloggers to acknowledge their writing and, to say thank you if their writing has impacted you in some way or other. download (1)

If you wish to accept, all you have to do is;

  • Thank the person who nominated you for the award!  
  • Add the Sisterhood of World Bloggers Award logo to your post and blog.
  • Answer 10 questions provided to you by the person who nominated you.
  • Provide 10 questions of your own for your nominees to answer.
  • Nominate your bloggers for the award and notify them.

Questions asked by Jaye:

1) What bought you to and inspires you about the world of blogging? I love to write and wanted a platform to put ideas and thoughts out there, so a blog seemed like the perfect idea.

2) Favourite Flower? Tulips, especially the red and orange ones.

3) Favourite childhood toy? My Hagrid Bear. I’ve had it for as long as I can remember and, I still sleep with it now.

SAM_03174) Character from a book that you most identify with? Hmm tough one. I’d say Hermione from Harry Potter as I’m a book nerd and genuinely enjoyed doing homework when I was at school. But I’d also say Scout from To Kill a Mockingbird because I can understand what it’s like to follow your brother around and, not understand why things are the way they are, especially the injustices of the world.

5) Bath or Shower? I shower nearly every day, but I do love a good bubble bath with candles, a bath bomb, incense and, a good book.

6) If I could give you three wishes what would they be? 1) Money for my Masters. 2) A visit to London. 3) To travel through Europe.

7) Go to Fancy dress outfit? Hmm either my Christmas pudding outfit or a Disney character.

8) Perfect day out/day in? Day in: Bubble bath, good book, a few films, maybe play WoW for a little while.

9) What is your guilty pleasure? I have a few; Taylor Swift. Yorkshire puddings – I could eat them every single day. And American teen dramas, yup I happily watch One Tree Hill/90210 and so on.

10) You most embarrassing moment? I suggest you post 3, 1 being true and 2 fibs to throw us off the scent. 1) Throwing up on my ex-boyfriend the first time we went away together. 2) Talking to fast whilst answering a question at uni, which resulted in everyone staring at me – I felt like a fool. 3)During our training at my previous job, we were playing a game and I was the only person who ended up falling over and hurting myself. I looked like an idiot.

My Nominees: 

  • Leanne at
  • Teela at
  • Jackie at
  • Ashley at
  • Sonya at

My Questions:

  • What’s your favourite memory?
  • If you could trade places with any famous person for one day, who would you choose?
  • Where do you see yourself in ten years’ time?
  • What’s your favourite book?
  • The first concert you ever went to?
  • Do you prefer Facebook or Twitter?
  • If you could have chosen your own name, what would it be?
  • If you had to get a tattoo, what would you get?
  • What’s your favourite brand of make up?
  • What’s your favourite animal?